Today I found that I actually care a lot about others' perception
of my actions.
And a lot of times, this leads to me being less
effective.
I used to think I care more about what's effective than popular.
But when I go to
the gym, I noticed that I would only start doing a certain
action after I see someone
else doing it. Otherwise, I seem to
be afraid of doing it wrong. This is evidence of
me caring more
about what's popular than what is effective.
This is bad because almost all the time, I overestimate others'
attention on me.
The scientific term for this is the spotlight
effect. 99% of the time, others don't
care about my actions at
all. So it's far more important for me to think about
what's
effective and focus on that rather than what I believe will
result in less
judgment from others.